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I have a protocol. A way of eating and behaving that produces weight loss. I learned it in Overeaters Anonymous. It’s tried and true. When I explained it to my dear friend, she gaped at me in stunned silence. “No,...
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I’ve dumped lots of therapists. They hate it. I’ve had therapists bend over backwards to accommodate my (intentionally unpredictable) schedule, reduce their fees to amounts that wouldn’t cover my weekly Starbucks consumption, ignore my wish completely or attempt to plow...
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The theory goes that we should give ourselves and others “permission to be human.” Permission to fail, change course, begin again. Always. We stumble, make mistakes — some minor, some seemingly disastrous. Yes, we must treat ourselves gently and with...
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There is a urban legend that we should fuel our bodies throughout the day by eating sensible snacks at regular intervals. The Overeaters Anonymous party line runs contrary. Part of my food protocol is three pre-planned meals with nothing in...
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Today is Yom Kippur, the holiest day on the Jewish calendar. Today we atone for our mistakes and ask forgiveness. Today there is an accounting, a reckoning. We are honest. Martha Beck speaks of an “integrity cleanse.” Bob Dylan asks...
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On Rosh Hashanah, our beloved Rabbi Black of Temple Emanuel in Denver remarked that the word “life” contains in its center the word “if.” He expanded on the way we play with the word “if.” We ask “what if?” What...
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We’re sending the boys to a new day camp. Predictably, they’re not thrilled. After promising to buy him miscellaneous sports equipment and a full sushi dinner after dismissal, my husband tried to rally my almost-seven-year-old with predictions that he would...
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Sometimes we delay starting because conditions are imperfect. You want to exercise but can’t squeeze in a whole hour. You’d like feed your body healthy, fuel foods, but you’ll start tomorrow because you had donuts and diet coke for breakfast....
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I’m not making this up. I spotted this jack of hearts at my feet in the woods this afternoon. I picked it up. On the reverse side was written: “Is this a dream?” I looked to my beloved Pema Chodron,...
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Simi Yellen, parenting guru and creator of “Raise the Bar Parenting” urges parents to create a positive atmosphere at home by proactively giving our kids positive attention rather than responding to kids’ misbehavior with lots of negative attention (à la, threats...
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